There is one thing certain in life and that is at some point we will be hit by a brick at a time we probably least expect it.
I know this may sound quite pessimistic but it’s true. Examine your life right now and my guess is that a few tough times have already presented at least once.
On a global scale, 7 billion of us share the same goal and that is to be happy. For that to occur we need to find a way to best navigate the hard times. Without it how possibly can we find peace of mind and the experience of positive emotion?
What if there was a formula for life? What if there was a secret blueprint that would lead us to happiness despite our circumstances?
Being the typical Aquarian I have pondered this idea for years and over the last few months in particular.
I have come up with something that I think is worthwhile to share.
Cause of Unhappiness Formula
Situation + Negative Story = Unhappiness
I’m going to be bold in saying that it doesn’t matter what situation we experience more than it is what we tell ourselves and others about it. Reality is made up in our minds so if we choose to relate a negative story about our challenges we will experience unhappiness.
Cause of Happiness Formula
Situation + Positive Expectation = Happiness
I strongly believe that if we have the ability to look forward to a better experience when faced with a challenging experience we will be happier.
I know it’s easier said than done but if we’re committed to being happy then we’ll take the time to practice a new way of thinking.
How do we do it?
Simple. Every time we’re faced with a less than ideal situation instead of allowing it to make us feel unhappy, think about how the situation could change and turn out to be an experience we’ll be excited about. Let’s use our imagination and make up a story (or a mind movie) that represents the ideal way we would like it to be.
I’ve been using this formula a lot since my illness and it’s helping me immensely. For example for the past 8 days I’ve had little strength and in bed 24/7. Even the slightest tasks leave me feeling totally fatigued. I started visualizing myself in my ideal situation running my usual 10km run with my mates, speaking to audiences about my experiences and enjoying fun times with my friends.
Everytime I visualize it I start to feel a sense of excitement about what I have to look forward to post my recovery and you know what? My fatigue doesn’t matter as much and I feel happy.